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7 Steps To Change Your Life: A Decided Heart

Written By: Denise Finochiaro

"In order to find God plan and purpose for you, you need to seek Him and figure out what He wants you to do with your life. And then say no to everything that isn't that."-Denise Finochiaro

Now that you have evaluated your life and written down your hopes and dreams and gotten yourself into the right mindset, it's time to start really working towards living the dream that God has put into your heart. The first thing you need to next is to have a decided heart! 

What is a decided heart?

Having a decided heart means you are willing to do whatever it takes, for as long as it takes, NO MATTER WHAT, in order to make your dream a reality. But before you can have a decided heart, you need to know what your number one dream is (the one that is MOST important to you) and why. This is the dream that you want more than you want to breathe and that scares you the most. So get out your list of of hopes and dreams and let's get to work!

Prioritizing Your Hopes and Dreams

Take your list of hopes and dreams and prioritize them by number with number one being the MOST important to you. Why do you need to do this? Because God may give you more than one dream, but there is usually one dream that stands out to you above all the rest. That dream is the one he is calling you to do first. That dream is the one he wants you to focus your time and effort on right now. If you don't know where God wants you to put your focus, you'll waste lots of time and energy on things that aren't propelling you into the to plan God has for you. When you are running around in circles trying to figure it out on your own you will quickly become mentally exhausted. When you allow God to show you what his dream and plan is for you that you need to be focused on right now, you will find peace in your life.

"In order to find God plan and purpose for you, you need to seek Him and figure out what He wants you to do with your life. And then say no to everything that isn't that."-Denise Finochiaro


More than one or two reasons

You also need to know WHY you want that dream the most and should have MULTIPLE REASONS why. I suggest a list of 21 reasons or more. Why? Because on your journey to making your dream a reality there are going to be hard days, days when you feel like giving up, days when you want to quit, days when you wonder if what your doing is worth all the hard work, days when things aren’t going to go as planned, days when situations happen that weren’t part of your plan. Days like this you will need to have enough reasons in your back pocket so that you can say, “Thank goodness this reason (the one that is not cooperating at the moment) isn’t the only reason I am working toward my dream!” When you have plenty of reasons and BIG REASONS you won’t be tempted to quit or give up so easily.


The Analysis Paralysis Trap

Finally, the third thing to help you get a decided heart is to get out of the analysis paralysis trap. This trap is right between our two ears. Our brains are a complex organ that holds every thought and memory we have ever had. It determines who we are, what our personality and character traits our. It also is the encyclopedia of our lives. It hold every memory we have ever had about who hurt us, who laughed at us, who told us our ideas were stupid, etc. In order to get out of this trap we need to take control of our minds and reprogram our thinking with God's word and positive thoughts that will allow us to teach ourselves that we ARE capable of fulfilling the dream God has for us.

Make The Decision To Be All In

Decide that you are going to turn your biggest dream into your reality NO MATTER WHAT. No matter how scared you are, how hard it is, if you don't have the money to do it, if you don't know how to do it. Decide that you are going to do whatever it takes for as long as it takes no matter what until you are living your dream. When your dream is big enough and you want it badly enough and you have a decided heart you will automatically start figuring out how to make it your reality.


1. Take your list of hopes and dreams and organize them in order of importance to you with number one being THE MOST IMPORTANT to you right now.

2. Make a list of at least 21 reasons why this particular hope & dream is so important to you.  Be specific!

3.  Make a list of everything that has kept you from achieving this goal in the past and what is keeping you from achieving it now.

4. Make the decision TODAY that you have a decided heart and that you are willing to do whatever it takes, for as long as it takes to fulfill the dream and the purpose God has given you. Pray and ask God to give you courage to face your fears, the ability to move forward and do the thing his is calling you to do and the wisdom to know you are going in the right direction.


In the next post we we will be talking about staying motivated when you want to quit.


Evaluate Your Life

What We Think About, We Bring About

A Decided Heart

You Know Your Most Important Dream, Now What?

Painting The Big Picture

One Foot Forward

A Plan In Motion

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